A 35 year old divorced guy desperately asking for some help.?

I think you should simply ask her if she is interested in pursuing a relationship with you. I see no point in continuing to pursue her if she is not as responsive to you as you would like. I understand she is shy, and there could be cultural differences too, but she has someone else on her mind and she is probably focusing on caring for her parents and working and living her life. I imagine she cares about you and likes you too but the only way for you to know for sure is to ask her. And be prepared for either answer.